My stepdad's dying - but I can't forgive him for what he's done to me! Is this sane, or do I need help?

Wow. This a tough question to answer, and certainly one that you might get a lot of different feedback. Well, I am a Christian person, but I do have my faults. And every day I wake up to another day full of things that can go wrong, if you know what I mean. However, my faith in GOD has led me to believe that He and only He will do the final judgment in heaven and no one else should be able to make judgment at other people. But, you have had a tough ordeal in your life because of this man and the only thing that you can is ask for GOD'S help in forgiving him. He will help you to find the right words and the right way to approach this man. That is all I am going to say because I am certainly not a preacher or a counselor. I am just trying to help a person move on with her life.